Gretchen Rubin, Gretchen Rubin, Gretchen Rubin! I was first introduced to Gretchen in her book Better than Before which explores the following questions and more:
- Why do I find it tough to create a habit for something I love to do?
- Sometimes I can change a habit overnight, and sometimes I can’t change a habit, no matter how hard I try. Why?
- I want to help someone else make a change. But how?
- Why do practically all dieters gain the weight back—plus more?
- How quickly can I change a habit?
- How can I get myself to stick to a new habit?
- Do the same strategies work for shaping simple habits (like wearing a seat belt) work for complex habits (like drinking less)?
- Why can I make time for everyone else, but can’t make time for myself?
What I Think
I discovered so much about my personality and the personality of others. I use the book to motivate myself, my kids, and my students. PS I am a card-carrying Obliger.
Another characteristic mentioned in the book that nestled into my thoughts was the idea of an Abstainer versus a moderator. Is it always good to suggest everything in moderation? What if someone does better committing to abstaining?
Gretchin gives the example of the person who can keep a bar of chocolate for weeks, just eating and being completely satisfied with the indulgence. Whereas, someone else may go crazy thinking about that chocolate. Eventually they cave and eat the whole bar of chocolate in one sitting.
What if that person would fare better as an Abstainer? What if the answer is always “no” for chocolate and there is no internal struggle of Do I eat it this time? Is this a special occasion? Do I deserve it?
What Others Think
I was particularly interested when I saw Melissa Joy Dobbins, registered dietitian and host of the podcast Sound Bites, interviewed Gretchen Rubin. Melissa showed how Gretchin’s framework can benefit the dietitian and healthcare provider. Listen to the podcast here.
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